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It’s easy to stay in an environment that fosters peace, creativity, and amity. But more often than not, workplaces are a home to toxicity. Be it the stress of having to beat deadlines, or simply just interacting with different personalities, a toxic work environment can, one way or another, take its toll on you. Dr. Kevin Sansberry sits down with The Introvert Leader, Terrance Lee, to talk about navigating through toxicity in the workplace. Taking an introvert’s perspective, Terrance shares how he flourished as a shy, timid guy in the industry and how he empowers others to tap into their own inner leadership potential. If you have ever doubted yourself, or ever thought that you had to be extroverted to be successful in a toxic environment, it’s time to awaken the leader inside you because the truth is; your introversion is your superpower.
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Dr. Kevin Sansberry II is a behavioral scientist and executive coach with expertise in toxic leadership, human capital strategy, and creating inclusive cultures of belonging to enhance organization performance. Over the years, Kevin has focused on providing research-informed solutions in various settings such as higher education, nonprofit, sales, and corporate environments.
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How Can Introverts Navigate A Toxic Work Environment? With Terrance Lee
Introversion is a personality trait characterized by a distinct focus on internal feelings rather than the external environment. As it relates to leadership, there are countless materials and books focused on introverted leaders. This episode is focused on how introverted individuals can navigate toxic work environments. During this episode, I had a conversation with introverted leadership expert, Terrance Lee. We discussed various aspects of introverted leaders including examining how they can excel at work and breaking down misconceptions that might exist. Look out for his upcoming book, Quiet Voice Fearless Leader: 10 Principles For Introverts To Awaken The Leader Inside. Let’s get to it.
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We have Terrance Lee, the Founder of The Introvert Leader. How are you?
I&#;m doing well. How about you?
I&#;m excellent. I&#;m happy that we&#;re going to be able to have a conversation about introversion and being introverts. What a lot of people might not know about me having a show, being a keynote speaker, and being paid to talk a lot is I&#;m introverted. I&#;m so happy to see somebody that&#;s focused on introversion, especially as it relates to leadership.
I appreciate you having me on. When I saw your show, I was intrigued. Your content is great, so it&#;s much needed.
I appreciate that. Tell us a little bit more about who you are and how you got into the work that you do.
I like to start at the beginning. When I was a kid, I was very social. I was always the first one in class to raise my hand when the teacher asks a question. I go to the chalkboard and write out my answers. I always had a lot of friends, talked a lot, did a lot of different activities, and things like that. That all changed when I got to middle school. At the age of thirteen, I was in a choir at school and I was also playing basketball and doing different things. A choir director says something to me one day at school that damaged my confidence in a lot of ways.
After that, I changed. I started to sit at the back of the class. I would know the answer to the questions and I wouldn&#;t raise my hand. When I was around friends and different people, I got a lot more reserved and timid. I’m thinking about things before I would say them. That continued from the time I was thirteen, going through high school and even going into college. I would have my friends and my social groups and everything like that but they would be a lot smaller. I would have my tight-knit group of folks that I was close to. As far as any type of leadership opportunities or speaking in front of people or anything like that, I wanted nothing to do with it.
I majored in Engineering in college at Florida A&M. When I graduated, I took on a role at Lockheed Martin in Dallas. I got in situations where it was sink or swim. I was in these opportunities to speak up in meetings and present in these rooms with these smart engineers and people. I was super nervous to do it. In one instance, I got forced to in a way because somebody put in their two-week notice and he was going to give a presentation one day and I was his backup. It was like, “Terrance, you are going to do this or you know what&#;s going to happen.” I ended up doing that presentation and it went very well.
I gained a lot of confidence from that. Fast forward to where I am now, I&#;m a Functional Manager for a team of engineers at a Fortune company. I&#;m also a Program Manager, so I manage a multimillion-dollar program for a very large team of engineers, contracts and finance teams, all while continuing to have an introverted nature. What I learned through this journey is that I am introverted. I have a personality that is not like the person that is the loudest voice in the room.
The one that&#;s going to burst in a room and start giving orders and things like that, that&#;s not me. However, I’m an effective leader and a good leader. The whole purpose for Introvert Leader, my platform and what I do is to empower people that have introverted personalities to realize that not only are there strengths to being an introvert, but it can be a superpower when you learn how to use it right. That&#;s the purpose of my platform and what I do.
Were you introverted before the sixth grade and the choir or did it manifest based on the comment?
In the process of writing my book, I&#;ve done a lot of thinking about that. I always had an introverted nature because I was always the type that when I would be by myself, I would draw a lot. I used to like to write and do a lot of different things by myself. Even before that incident, I always enjoyed that alone time. I always enjoyed that time to be creative and have that time to myself. It was always there. What happened was that incident, in a lot of ways, made me go into a shell. As opposed to enjoying the alone time and everything, I was in a space where I don&#;t want to have anything to do with leadership or speaking up. That&#;s when the shift happened.
Based on the comment or what have you, it heightened something that was probably already there. That’s great to hear in particular because I&#;m introverted and I grew up with a stigma that if you know the answer you need to speak up, how you are going to be heard, how you are going to be seen type of deal. What do you think about that stigma that manifests in a lot of introverted people?
That&#;s a very common thing. I heard it a lot with kids. My family is majority extroverted people. Back in the day at my grandmother&#;s house or uncle&#;s house, everyone is talking and cutting each other off and interrupting. There are loud conversations. If you&#;re not like that, you&#;re in the room. Society puts a lot of focus. They assume that people that talk a lot are leaders. That person talks a lot so they&#;re more outspoken or a go-getter. There are all these labels that are associated with people that may talk more, and then this pressure gets put on introverts too, “You need to speak up or you need to say something to get your voice heard.”
Quiet Voice Fearless Leader: 10 Principles For Introverts To Awaken The Leader Inside
Sometimes we just might want to think. Sometimes we might be thinking about what we want to say. Sometimes we may not have something to contribute to the conversation. It doesn&#;t mean that we&#;re not attentive or listening. It’s just we&#;re taking everything in. We&#;re observing or watching what&#;s going on. It&#;s a big misperception that society has because people can take that to mean we don&#;t have value to add. That&#;s a very big misperception and myth that&#;s out there around introverts.
To piggyback on that, we also design work to favor extroversion. If you had a problem to solve, people might create a meeting to talk it out where I might not be an extroverted thinker. I might be an introverted thinker where I need to process before the meeting, but we don&#;t design for both modalities. Being on the show, you know a few of the episodes. You know the vibe of the show. We&#;d like to talk about what many shows don&#;t talk about. I wanted to know first off, what is your experience or foray into the topic of toxic leadership when you hear that?
I&#;m in the defense industry, so working with military contracts and customers. I&#;ve experienced a number of different types of leaders, very effective leaders and bad leaders to be honest. Some were extremely extroverted, some were more introverted, all over the spectrum. From a toxic leadership standpoint, there are a few stories that stick out to me. In one prior program that I was on, I was a project engineer and I was a technical lead for a large team of engineers. It was a lot of pressure. There were tight deadlines to meet and different things are going on.
There was a particular chief engineer that we used to report to one of the programs. Day in and day out, we would be working, going to check on these different aircraft, running around the facility, talking to different people, me and the other project engineers getting all these things done. We would go to these meetings and we would brief him on what we had done for the week and status him on how things were going. After some time, I started to notice that he was typically in his office when we would be going around doing all these different things, running around, getting the status, and making things happen.
We would come to this meeting and status him, and then he would be in the office, drinking his coffee and reading the newspaper. I started to notice that. It was interesting because one day, he came to me after a particularly hard day. I had breached some slides to a customer and he printed the slides off and he showed me that I had missed putting a period at the end of a sentence. He&#;s like, “Terrance, I’m going to need you to get this together. This reflects on our group and the company.”
I&#;m sitting there thinking to myself, “Are you serious? I&#;ve been working since AM. It&#;s now PM. I worked a complete full day. I&#;m exhausted. Not to mention, I had a one hour commute at the time and had a brand-new son to take care of with my wife, and you&#;re talking about a period at the end of the sentence. You&#;re not giving any kudos or any thanks for any of the things that have been done. You&#;re focusing on this and you&#;re not in the trenches with us getting stuff done.” That experience rubbed me the wrong way, but it also was good for me because it showed me the exact opposite of what I wanted to be as a leader.
I appreciate you sharing that vulnerability and that story. That&#;s helpful because I&#;ve experienced where many leaders who have inclinations of toxic behavior will point out, &#;You&#;re missing a period. It&#;s quality. Excellence.&#; We got a spell check for that. We can fix that. That&#;s easy. My take on that is a lot of people may be missing the big picture of what you said.
You were breaking your neck to get the 99% of the document and deliverables complete while also the team was watching that the leader was not in the trenches with everybody, and was not reciprocating the work that you all did. You didn&#;t get help at the onset of creating it, but you also didn&#;t get any kudos for all the work that you did. All you got was criticism. That is a message that a lot of people need to hear about related to leadership. Leadership is not just the title one has or the fact that they have the office.
I talk a lot about the difference between management and leadership. A lot of people can be managers. You can get the title of being a manager. Their name is on an org chart and people look at them as they&#;re in a certain position, but a leader is something different. A leader gets in the trenches with their team. A leader puts their team first. A leader is always looking for opportunities to help people grow and succeed. Leadership and management are different.
One of the things to think about psychologically is managing is what you’ve experienced. You were being managed. I would guess that you weren&#;t being led because it doesn&#;t sound like people followed this leader. You do what they said but it was because you were being managed. You weren&#;t following. You weren&#;t actively and proactively following. You said, “I learned what not to do it. I want to operate the opposite of what I experienced.” I like that story because it shows a turning point in your leadership career. One of the things I&#;m curious about as we talk about toxic workplace environments and toxic behaviors, how can introverts navigate those environments?
Having an introverted personality, this first thing may sound a little cliché but it&#;s so key. It’s that if you have an introverted personality, accept and love the fact that you&#;re an introvert. The reason I say that is because for so long, I thought that something was wrong with me. I thought that I had a problem, and I had to be someone else. I had to be the loudest voice in the room because that was my perception of leadership, to be honest. I thought I had to change who I was to be successful in my career. A lot of it was the success that I had on that aircraft program.
They would tell me that they appreciated my leadership and what I was doing. I was doing this while maintaining my type of personality and the way that I am. It gave me the confidence I didn&#;t have before. The first step is to love who you are. Don&#;t try to be anyone else. Be authentically you and come to an acceptance with that. One of the other things that I will say is to a certain degree, we do have to learn to push boundaries and step out of our comfort zone. When we say this, a lot of times as introverts, we hear that to mean, “You&#;re telling me I got to be an extrovert.”
When he had been working in his first role for a short time, his mentor put in his two-week notice. Terrance then found out that he had to take his place presenting to a group of experienced engineers and pilots for a highly technical review. Despite feeling extremely nervous, the meeting that Terrance led went well; which gave him a giant confidence boost.
Since then, Terrance has taken on many leadership and management roles as an introvert at several Fortune companies in the defense industry, with proven results. He utilizes his platform to empower introverts to tap into their own inner leadership potential and is never shy about sharing the tips that he has learned throughout his journey.
Toxic Work Environment: Many leaders who have inclinations of toxic behavior tend to point out what you&#;re missing.